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When little girls attack, it looks an awful lot like an army of pink-clad princesses marching forth from preschool to pubescence. What are the lasting effects of this obsession?
Augusta, Ga. – Wearing an outfit seemingly cast off from the set of the old “Solid Gold” television show, my daughter spins around with her arms held gracefully at her side.
“It’s a wunnerful dweam come twue,” she gasps, quoting a line >from “Cinderella.”
Dr. Keri Weed from the psychology faculty at the University of South Carolina-Aiken explained that each infant is born with unique traits, and that some things are constitutional — inborn, but not necessarily genetic.
“Then those constitutional traits get shaped and modified as they interact with family and people in their environments,” she said. “But they do form a fairly strong initial bias. You being an active child, your parents may very well have allowed that… If the same child was born to a different set of parents, they could very easily discourage those behaviors in a girl.”
Weed explained that Emmie’s obsession with princesses and other such girly things is within the range of normal. When gender identity begins to form around the age of 2, children begin to be able to identify themselves as either a boy or a girl. They seek out toys, objects and experiences that reinforce that identity. It’s similar to how a teenager who was not me might have listened to a lot of The Cure because she identified with their ennui… (Read More)
Nevermind what grandma says: Feeding your child is not like it used to be. Sure, grandma had to worry about the usual stuff, like vitamins, minerals and protein. But these days, we worry about DHEA, Omega-3 fatty acids, carb counts, sugar content, fair trade, pesticides, preservatives, organics and childhood obesity.
It’s enough to make mom lose whatever marbles they had left after that one time you found your 3-year-old on the kitchen counter shoving handsful of raw sugar into her mouth.
So getting children to eat their vegetables is not just about patience and persistence. It’s about politics and psychology, too.
Don’t worry, mom. We know just how to get those greens in their gullets.
- Think of all of the foods that your child already eats. Mac and cheese? Chicken nuggets? Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches? Hot dogs? Make a list of everything you have in rotation for their meals.
- Call the pediatrician in a panic. Sit on hold for 15 minutes. Beg the nurse to put the doctor on the phone. Wonder what happened to doctors who didn’t treat their patients like they’re somehow ruining their golfing schedule.
- Once the doctor finally reaches the phone, rationally explain your position by shrieking, “My child has rickets!”
- Apologize for ruining his tee time.
- Hang up. Google what experts say on child nutrition.
- Somewhere in your search, you begin to understand that these experts are not, in fact, studying childhood nutrition. Their actual thesis measures the effects of terrifying health stories in the media on instances of group psychosis in mothers.
- Go back to step 1. Try not to lose control of yourself this time.
- Once you have that list, work backwards from the dishes your child will eat, deconstructing them along the way, looking for ingredients and flavors.
- Begin by substituting healthier options for the foods he or she already eats. Got a hot dog fanatic? Try a veggie dog. Is your little poo-packer a mac-and-cheese-head? Sub soy cheese and high-protein or whole-wheat pasta for their regular binge of starch and fat.
- Now look for a way to slip veggies into meals without them noticing. For example, if your child will eat spaghetti, use a puree of carrots, peppers, onions and tomatoes as the base of your sauce. If your child eats pizza, puree blanched green, red and yellow veggies, and spread it on the crust before the sauce and cheese.
- When subterfuge isn’t possible, think about items that have similar colors and structure to foods your child already enjoys. If, for example, your child likes pumpkin pie, why not pour mashed sweet potatoes into a pie pan? If it’s corn they crave, try Asian baby corn — or even hominy. Sub mashed turnips or cauliflower for whipped potatoes.
- Be patient with your toddler or preschooler. Experts say that you should follow “the rule of 15.” A child must be exposed to a new food up to 15 times before he or she will accept it.
- Realize these experts have no children. They have never met the steely will of a child who does not want to eat the food over which you have so agonizingly slaved.
- Declare war. Batten the hatches and whip out your big guns: the time-outs, the removal of a favorite toy, the ban on television.
- Weeks later, admit defeat. Make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich — with low-fat, low-sugar peanut butter, low-sugar fruit spread and whole grain bread… with the crusts cut off.
- Buy a big jar of Flintstones vitamins — and hide an exploding golf ball in your pediatrician’s golf bag.
When my husband and I promised, “Til death do us part,” I thought we’d have a little longer to drive each other nuts. But as I finished up my work day one Friday in September, my husband called.
“I think I have jaundice,” he moaned.
“Stop smoking crack, honey, you don’t have jaundice,” I sighed.
But he did, and a visit that same day to the emergency room turned into a month-long stay in intensive care.
One of the reasons we’d missed the slow onset of Scott’s illness is that much of our focus each day is given to other people: our employers, to be certain, but primarily our 3-year-old daughter Emerson. And while she provided moments of humor and levity at the hospital, it was clear that she was in the way of medical personnel, and that her presence was not welcome in many quarters of the hospital.
That left a divide between what was happening in our lives and what was happening in her life.
Toddlers and preschoolers, adventurous as they are, still crave order and structure, and tend to be creatures of habit. So when Daddy wasn’t there in the morning to grump around, and Mommy wasn’t there to give her “hugs and mooches,” it could have thrown her off considerably.
But Scott’s brother and his wife took her in while I stayed with Scott for what we thought would be an overnight or weekend visit. But he was in the midst of acute liver, kidney and lung failure brought on by a spontaneous bout with a dangerous autoimmune disorder called thrombotic thrombocytopenic purpura (TTP).
He walked into the ER on a Friday night. By Saturday, he was unconscious and breathing only with the help of a ventilator in the Cardio-Pulmonary Intensive Care Unit at University Hospital.
Our shocked family watched him balance on the precipice between life and death. Together, we learned to read his monitors, watched over his vital signs, read to him and massaged his muscles.
There was just one hitch: The one person who has the greatest effect on him is Emerson. But children are not allowed in the ICU patient rooms.
And while her stay with her greatly adored aunt and uncle softened the transition, Emerson was the one person who could have taken my focus from my then-dying husband. And I needed to be with him.
So after a few days, we shipped her off to my parents’ home in Atlanta. And while I’ve never regretted the decision, I’ve often wondered if I could have done better for her.
Dr. Reginald Pilcher, a member of the pediatrics staff at Doctors Hospital, says that parents need to choose what is best for the individual situation — but that the philosophy to cling to is one of honesty, patience and inclusion.
“Our instincts say, ‘Protect the child from all of this.’ The worst thing you can do is to isolate the child from the situation,” Pilcher said.
And, of course, that’s exactly what I did for the first two weeks, when everything was touch-and-go and I spent almost 24 hours a day at the hospital, in an area where Emerson was not allowed. She knew her father was sick and that doctors were taking care of him.
And she knew that Mommy was with Daddy.
Luckily, my family reported that Emmie was mostly the happy-go-lucky child she usually is, except for occasions when she would stop and moan, “I miss Mommy and Daddy.” But she was easily distracted from her distress by other forms of play, and they repeated that doctors were doing their best for Scott.
It would have been easier for them to tell her that Daddy was going to be fine, but Pilcher says that’s a dangerous trap to set.
“Don’t make promises that can’t be kept, like, ‘I promise you that Daddy will be here for Christmas.’ You just don’t know,” Pilcher said. “It’s important because after [illness or death], they’ve got to have that strong faith and trust to fall back on.”
And making statements that later turn out to be false undermines that trust.
Once Scott was stable, and I felt we’d asked enough of my extended family, we brought her home, got her back on her regular schedule and back into her wonderful preschool. But it might have been better if we’d never gotten her off the schedule at all.
“It is good to try to keep activities going for the child,” Pilcher said. “If the child’s in soccer, and the mother’s sick, the dad needs to try to keep the soccer going, and to make the games. To try to keep things as normal as they can. And to try to plan new activities, like, ‘Today we’re going on a picnic.’ Those can create good memories that the child can rely on later.”
Oh well. She had lots of fun with her cousins. And when she returned, we had a better handle on Scott’s illness. I could explain to her that Daddy was very sick, that Mommy and the doctors were doing their very best to help him and that she wouldn’t be able to see him for a while.
When she asked, “Will he come home soon?” I answered honestly, “I don’t know, honey, but I really hope so.”
Those explanations were adequate, according to Pilcher.
“By keeping the child informed with accurate information at their level — the trust can always be there,” he said. “Children need things in increments, just like we do, but it doesn’t hurt for a child to know almost everything that you know.”
The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (AACAP) breaks down children’s reactions to illness and death by age, with the caveat that each child is different: Preschool children like Emerson usually see death as temporary and reversible, a belief reinforced by cartoon characters who die and come to life again. So they aren’t usually overly anxious about a serious illness.
Children between 5 and 9 begin to think more like adults about death, yet they still believe it will never happen to them or anyone they know. So they are more easily shocked when serious illnesses or death invade their childhood paradise, and may experience acute anxiety about safety.
Children older than this tend to understand the permanence of death. They react more like grieving adults, and respond in ways adults recognize and to which they can respond.
But there is also something called “anticipatory grief,” Pilcher said, which should also be taken seriously.
“Children whose parents are in the armed forces or in jobs like policemen or firemen, where they’re seeing on TV all the time that these people are getting killed — they can go through the same grief process as someone who has a relative at home who is terminally ill,” Pilcher said.
An 8-year-old boy can put together that his father may not make it home from Iraq, for example, and begin to act out. A child who has a parent with a non-terminal but long-term illness can react similarly.
To combat this, parents and caretakers should be prepared to listen without judgment about how a child feels, and without a goal of fixing the child’s distress. There are no words to fix their feelings, and children should simply be made to feel as though they have a trusted adult to whom they can express themselves.
Adults should also be honest to the child with explanations that are age-appropriate. For example, very young children should be told that when something dies, it stops moving, doesn’t see or hear anymore and won’t wake up again. Or, that Mom or Dad will be very tired and spend a lot of time in bed, and that it is important to help them by playing quietly and by being gentle when touching. Questions should be answered simply but honestly, in a soothing voice with comforting gestures.
And finally, adults should find ways to include children in long-term care. Pilcher recommends that even children as young as 4 or 5 can be given simple jobs to do.
“Now we’re all going to do this together to help Mom. You job is going to be to help mom with her oxygen tank, or to fold all of mom’s gauze, to keep them involved. They’re part of the caregiving then,” he said.
And even in cases where an adult is not terminal, it’s possible to see changes in children’s behavior.
“In those situations, you can go through the same feelings [as with a death], you just don’t have to explain that [the parent] might not be here. That’s a biggie, especially to an older child,” Pilcher said. In other words, there may still be a grieving process, due to fear, anxiety and instability or changes in the family, but the end result may not be as grim.
Again, finding a way to include the child is the optimal way to help them through the illness or grieving process. At Appletree Academy, the children in Emmie’s class made a giant “Get Well” banner that everyone signed, including most of the teachers in the school. Emmie was so proud of it, and she was able to take it to Scott once he was moved out of ICU. It was her gift to him after having been separated for so long.
Well, not too long. Once he woke up, I snuck her in to the CPCU at University Hospital for a brief few seconds of waving and blowing kisses from the doorway, until the nursing staff good-naturedly shooed us away. Shout out to the nursing staff, by the way, with some of whom Scott still keeps in contact. They were nothing short of incredible.
One of the reasons I chanced sneaking her in is because the best way to make the situation as bad as it can be is to keep children in the dark, or to allow the lines of communication to break down between caretaker and child. Pilcher recommends that information about a parent’s illness — or eventual death — come from the primary caretaker, whether that is the second biological parent, the sick parent’s new spouse or another relative closest to the child — and as quickly as information is available. In short, I felt strongly that Emmie needed to see Scott to understand the situation.
That’s because children, little sponges that they are, pick up on more than adults give them credit for. They may not be able to articulate what’s going on around them, but they understand that something is wrong. Not having a name, face or explanation as to what that thing is can give rise to greater, more powerful and encompassing fear than the situation warrants.
They may find something about the situation and make an association that adults cannot connect, and see as strangely superstitious or illogical. For example, if the family attended a Little League game the day before Mom’s diagnosis, a child may associate baseball with illness — or even something as specific as the hot dogs eaten at the game.
Almost every child is going to display some sort of coping or reactionary behavior, according to the AACAP. Many children will regress and act younger than they are. They may blame themselves for what happened. They may lash out in anger, cry more than usual or cling to an adult. Those are normal, and should abate over time, according to Pilcher.
But there are times when children may experience serious coping problems with grief. In those cases, they may need professional assistance to get through the process. According to the AACAP, children who are having serious problems with grief and loss may lose interest in activities for a long time, be unable to sleep or eat, fear being left alone, excessively imitate the person who has passed, repeat statements that they want to join the deceased, withdraw from friends, refuse to attend school or demonstrate a prolonged drop in school performance. Those are all causes for concern, but can be improved by an experienced professional.
Fortunately, Scott’s illness never progressed to the point where that became an issue. He is now home, back at work and while not completely recovered, has greatly improved.
Luckily for us, Emerson was so well supported by our friends, family and her teachers that she experienced few ill effects from the experience. She also benefits from a father who is ridiculously loving and playful with her.
The strength of their relationship has been only slightly affected by the experience.
“When I was growing up in in junior high, this friend of mine’s father was killed in a traffic accident. This kid who was usually pretty withdrawn became the class clown. It was a coping mechanism. Kids will create coping mechanisms,” Pilcher said.
Right now, three months after Daddy’s release from the hospital, Emerson tends to demand that I do everything for her — and while it hurts Scott’s feelings, I think she still fears a little that “Daddy be tired.”
But Pilcher recommends giving about a six-month window to get things back to normal again. And hopefully, by then, we’ll all be back to driving each other happily nuts.
How Children Express Grief or Anticipatory Grief
- Thumb sucking
- Clinging to adults
- Exaggerated fears
- Excessive crying
- Temper tantrums
Elementary school-age children:
- School and learning problems
- Preoccupation with the loss and related worries, daydreaming, trouble paying attention
- Bedwetting, regression, developmental delays
- Eating and sleeping problems (overeating, refusing to eat, nightmares, sleepiness)
- Fighting, anger
- Pre-teens and early adolescents
- Physical symptoms (headaches, stomachaches, sleeping and eating disorders, hypochondria)
- Wide mood swings
- Able to verbally expresses emotions
- Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness
- Increase in risk-taking and self-destructive behaviors
- Anger, aggression, fighting, oppositional behavior
- Withdrawal from adults
- Depression, sadness
- Lack of concentration and attention
- Identity confusion, testing limits
Courtesy of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry.
With the inauguration of American’s first African-American president — or just another white president, depending on who you ask — children are more interested than ever before in politics. But it can be a difficult task to explain government and its structure to the wee ones. Here’s a simple step-by-step:
1. Wipe that scowl off your face. No need to destroy their wide-eyed innocence right away.
2. Sit them down by the hearth with cups of hot chocolate and wax eloquently about the revolutionary system of governance that our founding fathers built from philosophy and free will.
3. Wake up from that daydream, wipe the drool off your chin and drag the kids away from the video games.
4. Sit them down on the couch with cups of soda and try to remember what your ninth-grade civics textbook said. You remember: The one that permanently resided at the bottom of your locker… the one you flipped through briefly at the beginning of the year?
5. Explain that, based on the thoughts of philosopher John Locke, man has a social contract with government that does not allow him to leave the island.
6. And also, based on that contract, no man is an island.
7. Call your mother for help.
8. Apologize to your mother for your freshman civics grade — and your sophomore algebra grade, the guy you dated your freshman year of college, the shoes you chose for your wedding, the names of your children and each and every one of her grey hairs.
9. Wake your kids up and put them to bed. Vow to start over tomorrow.
10. Over breakfast, utilize visual aides to demonstrate the structure of American government.
11. Each pancake in the stack has a different function: state, local and federal. The sticky stuff, the syrup, is the politicians. Tasty at first, but too much and it will make you sick.
12. No, the sausages aren’t part of the demonstration. OK, fine, they can represent the politically disenfranchised minority populace. And the milk is the whitewash used by the politicians to cover up their misdeeds in office.
13. OK, look, the sausage is what the members of government promise to give you if you vote for them. After the election, the president is impeached for speculating in pork futures. The media calls the affair “WilburGate.”
14. Engage them in a food fight over control of the last scrap of sausage. That, they’ll understand.
The challenge: Tour as many of Atlanta’s famous attractions as possible in one week. The verdict from all is that it was well worth the effort to entertain everyone.
Our crowd included Jacob, an intelligent and somewhat impatient 10-year-old fifth grader; Jackson, a reserved but very active 4-year-old preschooler; and Emerson, an expressive 3-year-old daredevil.
The outcome included blisters, sunburns and previously unknown levels of exhaustion. These negatives, however, were rendered completely irrelevant as the kids fell asleep every night with smiles on their faces.
The Georgia Aquarium
This newest attraction in the Centennial Olympic Park area is also one of the world’s best aquatic adventures. It explores river life like otters and coldwater creatures like penguins.
Adults and children enjoyed the touch pools filled with rays, sharks, sea stars and anemones in the Georgia Explorer section, and lingered in Ocean Voyager, especially the impressive walk-through ocean tunnel where the giant resident Whale Sharks regularly pass overhead. A “4D” theater uses 3D animation along with tactile additions like blasts of cool air and sprinkles of water.
Verdict: Three thumbs up
Feedback: “I like da stickies (sea anemones),” Emerson said.
If you go: Get there just before it opens at 10 a.m. and you’ll avoid lines and large tour groups. But the real reason is to watch feeding time at the sea lion exhibit at 10:30 a.m., with the otters and Beluga whale feedings following just after.
Best for: Everyone except animal-rights activists. We can’t have penguins roaming Peachtree Street.
Don’t miss: The sticky sea anemone touch experience or the majesty of the ghostly Beluga whales
Bring: Parking money, a camera, comfortable shoes, gift shop escape clause (you have to walk through the gift shop to exit the aquarium), socks for the children’s play area.
Admission: Included in the Atlanta City Pass. Individual prices: $19.50 per child, $21.50 per senior and $26 per adult. Children 2 and under are free. Four-D theater tickets are $4 for children and $5.50 for adults. Or get a premium day pass that includes theater tickets, too, and save $3 per person. For a truly extravagant experience, book a behind-the-scenes tour or a swim or dive with the whale sharks.
What to do after: Have a picnic lunch in Centennial Olympic Park. Bring towels for the kids to dry off with after playing in the park’s animated fountains.
World of Coca-Cola
This boasts the world’s largest collection of Coke memorabilia, a fully-functioning bottling line, a tasting experience with more than 60 different Coke products from around the world and a 4D theater. It’s twice the size as the previous World of Coke museum and a great deal more interactive. Don’t misunderstand the message behind it: Coca-Cola wants you to buy their products and their public relations officers are freakin’ geniuses for coming up with this.
But getting a glimpse at how they became one of the most recognizable brands in the world (hint: they say it’s distribution) is fascinating. Adults will see through it; kids may not. Prep them for the hard sell.
Verdict: Two thumbs up
Feedback: They could only spew unintelligible gibberish because they were too hopped up on sugary soda.
If you go: Be prepared to wait to get into the museum. Tour groups are allowed in batches because the first exhibit, a clever film presentation of what happens inside a Coke machine, has limited seating in what’s called the Happiness Factory Theatre. Advice: try not to drop your wallet in this room like I did.
Best for: Preteens and the extremely brand conscious.
Don’t miss: The tasting room. Some of the flavors, we were certain, were developed just to mess with us. Nalu is a vitamin-packed mango-flavored soda that I wish was available in the U.S. But the sharp, herbal flavor of Mare Rosso can stay in Spain. It tastes kind of like Angostino bitters.
Bring: Parking money, comfortable shoes, a camera, gift shop money, a picnic lunch for Centennial Olympic Park and towels for the kids to dry off with after playing in the park’s fountains.
Admission: Included in the Atlanta City Pass. Individual prices: $9 per child, $13 per senior and $15 per adult. UGA Alumni Association members get $2 off at the ticket window. Children 2 and under are free.
What to do after: Have the kids walk off their sugar highs by staging a forced-march to the Hard Rock Cafe a few blocks away — or catch MARTA and try the world-famous Varsity. Just make sure no one orders soda with dinner.
The vast array of animals in their natural habitats in the middle of the urban green space that is Atlanta’s Grant Park was staggering. From sleepy tortoises to terrible tigers, unless all you see is a collection of walking rugs or coats, no one will want to miss out on this anthropomorphic experience. Still, it was a little disappointing not to have the voiceover announcer for “Meerkat Manor” narrate the lives of the giggling grranimals. But you can provide your own play-by-play when the ostriches take off running for no discernable reason. They really do look like the cartoon Roadrunner.
Verdict: Three thumbs up
“My favorite was the alligator snapping turtle. It was huge. It was bigger than Jackson,” Jacob said.
If you go: Watch the gorilla feedings from 2-3 p.m. and the orangutan feedings from 2:30-2:45 p.m. Also, your kids will hate you if you don’t shell out for the train, the carousel and the rock-climbing wall. It’s $2 for any two of the three, but just buy the dang unlimited option for $6.50. You know they’re not going to get to the top of that wall on the first try.
Best for: Everyone. But watch the younger kids closely in the petting area.
Don’t miss: Pandas!
Also Bring: Comfortable shoes, sunscreen, gift shop money, a camera, snacks and water in a backpack.
Admission: Included in the Atlanta City Pass. Individual prices: $13 for children, $14 for seniors, military and college students, $18 for adults. Children 2 and under are free. Parking is free.
Fernbank Natural History Museum
Standing next to the three-story skeleton in the first-floor atrium at Atlanta’s natural history museum really helped me appreciate Palmetto Bugs. They are nothing compared to the dominating dinosaurs. Full of hands-on exhibits and collections, not to mention anthropological art displays like a photographic exploration of the Gullah people, the museum offers an exploration of the natural world that surrounds the concrete and steel so quickly overtaking the Peach State.
Verdict: Two thumbs up
Jackson: “What I really wike was the pway pwace (play place) — the one where you can fish the fishes.”
If you go: The little ones won’t get as much out of the walk-through exhibits, and their attention may wane in the 45-minute movies. If or when that happens, take them to the third floor, where the interactive play areas abound. But save that area for last.
Best for: Tweens and teens that have yet to hit “surly” on their biological alarm clocks will get the most out of the museum overall, but there is something every family member can appreciate.
Don’t miss: The IMAX movies. The experience of flying through the movie really can’t be beat. Older folks will enjoy “Mystic India.” Younger folks will dive into “Dolphins.”
Also Bring: Comfortable shoes, gift shop money, a camera, snacks and water in a purse.
Admission: Included in the Atlanta City Pass. Individual prices: $13 for children, $14 for seniors, $15 for adults. IMAX tickets are $11 for children, $12 for students and senior and $13 for adults. Or, buy a value pass that includes one IMAX film: $19 for children, $21 for students and seniors, and $23 for adults. Children 2 and under are free. Parking is free.
What to do after: Check out the nearby neighborhoods: Indie shopping and ethnic eats in Little Five Points, where The Vortex was voted Atlanta’s Best Burger; dinner and a movie at the historic Plaza Diner and Plaza Theatre on Ponce de Leon Ave.; or boutique shopping and trendy dining in Virginia-Highlands. Try Noché. Ask for Kelli.
For crowd-pleasing experiences, Six Flags can’t be beat. They offer everything from stage shows to scare tactics, concerts to coasters. And everyone in the family can join in the fun.
Our toddler would have ridden the back of a dragon to the front gate, so our issue with her was keeping her off the larger rides. The preschooler wished he could ride the larger rides with his older brother, but it wasn’t likely he would have survived them emotionally intact.
He was too frightened of an actor playing Batman to go near him. The 10-year-old, well… the adults had to tag team riding with him. There was just no stopping him. One adult gave up halfway through the day and returned home early to rest. But the children didn’t let up all day long.
Verdict: Three thumbs up
Feedback: “OHMYGOSHTHATWASSOCOOL!” Jacob said
“Can we go on the water ride again? Can we go on the water ride again? Can we go on the water ride again?” — Jackson
“’Member when I wide da boats? An’ it go wound and wound? And den — SPWASH!” Translation: she liked the Santa Maria and the Log Flume. — Emerson
If you go: Go in the middle of the week when the crowds are smaller. Load up on sunscreen. Wear light-colored natural materials that dry quickly. And definitely splurge for the Flash Pass that will cut your wait times greatly. The wait time for some of the rides can be an hour or more. Remember that crowds are large so it’s best to implement security measures like the buddy system, meeting points, synchronized cell phones and strict enforcement of behavioral standards.
Best for: Everyone. With family rides, Bugs Bunny World and the brand-new Thomas Town, not to mention the water-soaked Skull Island, everyone can have fun all day. Granted, the over-48-inchers in the family will have more options. But the lines aren’t as long for children’s rides so they can ride them over and over, the same way they watch Dora videos.
Don’t miss: The Superman Ride, the free-with-admission concert series, Skull Island, the Souvenir Cup beverage deal: $13 gets you free refills all day on the day of purchase, and 99-cent refills on subsequent visits. Otherwise you’ll be either weighed down with beverages or slowed down by dehydration.
Also bring: $20 for parking, comfortable shoes, sunscreen, towels, bathing suits, a cooler with lunch, a small backpack or messenger bag with snacks, small bills for the lockers and a stroller or wagon for younger children. Both preschoolers were crammed into one rental stroller by 4 p.m.
Admission: Summer special: Now when you buy your tickets online, everyone pays the kids price of $29.99. Children 2 and under are free. Plus, you can print your tickets at home and go straight to the gate. Again, buying the Flash Pass online rather than waiting to do so at the park will save you a few bucks. The prices range from a $26 for a one-person to $106 for a six-person regular pass; or $53 for a one-person or $193 for a six-person gold pass.
The High Museum
Museums are built on reputation. So the recent 177,000 square-foot expansion to the museum didn’t do as much for the organization as one might think. But they have provided space for exhibits on Picasso, Toulouse Latrec and from the Louvre’s own collection. Just open: “Road to Freedom: Photographs of the Civil Rights Movement, 1956-1968.” It is absolutely incredible. But the museum, for all the many exciting things that drew the adults in our party, is not for every age group. The children’s area bored Jackson — or so he said, and then spent 30 minutes arranging blocks on the building tables. Emerson had to be dragged away. Jacob didn’t find the art all that interesting. He’s more science-oriented.
However, we brought Emerson here when she was just under a year old, and the visuals entranced her. This time it devolved into a dramatic performance of the Don’t Touch That Opera.
Verdict: One thumb up
Feedback: “There isn’t anyfing here that I wike,” Jackson said.
If you go: Don’t. Wait for a group of very artistic youngsters, older teens and adults. This wasn’t the best place for our two younger tagalongs.
Best for: Teens and adults, but if you have calmer more complacent children, or those who are quiet and confined to strollers, this is an excellent venue to get them started on cultural appreciation.
Don’t miss: In the excitement about the Louvre exhibits and the Civil Rights photography, many people forget about the museum’s rotating permanent exhibits. Don’t. The seeming translucence of the veil over one marble sculpture’s face is worth the price of admission.
Also Bring: Comfortable shoes, $10 for parking
Admission: Included in the Atlanta City Pass. Individual prices: $11 for children, $15 for students and seniors, $18 for adults. Children 5 and under are free.
What to do after: Your gang of sophisticated adults will enjoy the short hop over to the Atlanta Botanical Garden’s Thursday night Cocktails in the Garden or one of their concert presentations with artists like Shawn Colvin and Lucinda Williams. You can also stroll Piedmont Park, which is surrounded by neighborhood eateries and hosts a Screen on the Green film series, or return to Fernbank on Friday nights for their “Martinis and IMAX” event.
“What’s that?” I asked, pointing to the wood floor of our living room.
“It’s a penny,” my husband answered, unconcerned.
I sighed, picked it up off the floor, and put it in a can with its long-lost relatives. I confess: I’m a cheapskate. If there’s a penny, I pinch it. If there’s a dollar, I demand it from my husband’s wallet.
“What do you need it for?”
“I don’t know… Maybe I’ll get a newspaper later?”
Hmph. He can read it online for free.
There wasn’t a lot of money for extras when I was growing up. We wore off-brand clothes when Gloria Vanderbilt and Pumas were two of only seven or eight brands allowed. Other kids weren’t fooled.
“Kangaroos?” said another fifth-grader, incredulously. “Who wears Kangaroos?”
I did – Purple tennis shoes to match my purple faux Member’s Only jacket.
Although some people refuse to wear anything without one of a certain class of logo on their clothes, we feed, clothe, and furnish our family without credit cards on an income of you-can’t-imagine-how-little-freelance-writing-pays.
Calculate the real cost – Compare prices by number, weight, and volume. Cut coupons selectively because they are usually for brands that cost more to purchase with a coupon than store brands do without. Upon occasion, I stumble across a deal like name-brand two-liters of soda on sale for 79 cents with a coupon for $1 off a purchase of three two-liters – on double coupon day. Each bottle was 13 cents.
Refuse retail – Membership wholesalers have everything: clothes, pet food, jewelry, software, electronics, and furniture. Don’t buy a membership. Find someone else who already has one and add on to his or hers for half the price.
Everything is negotiable – When looking for a larger apartment, we got $50 off the monthly rent because we promised to sign a two-year lease. Make some concessions that benefit the business. Promise a certain number of referrals within your contract period. Look into a longer partnership than is customary. Make capital improvements. Never take the first interest rate, insurance premium, or installation fee quoted.
Know your needs and network – Work the yard sale and flea market circuits, go to Goodwill early Saturday afternoons, keep up with “Iwanta” (free online at http://www.iwanta.net), and join http://www.freecycle.org. Gather up your unused stuff and offer it to other cheapskates. You never know what people desire. I found other freecyclers frenzied over a Star Trek book I had never read, a half-pack of diapers my daughter had outgrown, and a set of sheets that didn’t fit our bed.
Unmask marketing – Most brands are very similar and what they’re actually selling you is style or security. Tylenol and store-brand acetaminophen are identical and one costs $3 less than the other. Because the Food and Drug Administration controls the composition of infant formula, I buy a store brand formula that is not only 1/3 cheaper than brand name but is also easier on my daughter’s sensitive digestive system. When in doubt, read the ingredients and their ratios to determine any real differences.
Prevent pernicious purse-snatchers – convenience stores, vending machines, restaurants, and peak-time entertainment. Plan meals ahead so that you don’t have to stop at convenience stores, cook at home, bring snacks with you, and attend matinee shows.
Examples of My Thrifty Rewards:
- Kitchen Hutch
- Desk and Hutch
- Couch and Wingback Chair
- Digital Camera
Source: Pawn Shop
Cost: $30 + paint
- Computer Printer
Source: Flyer on university bulletin board
- Timberland Shoes
Source: Yard Sale
- Swing/High Chair
Cost: $20 (with a side table thrown in)
Source: Yard Sale
- Baby Clothes (for her first two years)
Retail: several hundred dollars
Cost: About $40
Source: Hand-me-downs, yard sales, freecycle.org, and Sam’s Club (outfit: freecycle.org)
(c) originally published in Sass Magazine, 2005